What should I do if my baby falls asleep when I hold him and wakes up when I put him down?

Jun 1, 2023

Does my baby have to be held to fall asleep between 0 and 1 year old? Most babies at this stage are used to being held to sleep. However, cuddling to sleep is not a good sign. The reason why babies like to sleep in cuddles is that they are overly attached to their parents. It is the nature of babies to like to be held in the arms of their parents because they will feel happy and safe in their parents' arms.

Parents who are always accommodating to their babies, as soon as they cry, they pick them up or hold them in their arms to put them to sleep, and even when they fall asleep, they don't put them down, so slowly they become overly attached to them, and when they finally want to sleep, they can only fall asleep by holding them.

Therefore, if the baby is not held properly, not only will it be difficult for the baby to adapt psychologically, but it will also have a negative impact on the baby's health. These are four wrong practices that can develop the habit of cuddling to sleep:

1. Not getting enough love and security
If babies lack security or do not feel adequately loved by their parents, they will be afraid of being alone and of sleeping alone. The fact that your baby wants to be held is a sign that he or she is longing for parental care.
2. Not being prepared for bedtime
Adults like to sleep in a quiet and comfortable environment, and so do babies. Before going to bed, make sure you prepare well. If your baby is holding his urine or going to bed hungry, or if the environment is too hot or too cold you will definitely not sleep well and affect the quality of sleep.
3. Pampering your baby too much during the newborn period
Good habits need to be developed by parents. Some parents love their babies so much that when they are born, they hold them all day long and gradually they develop the habit of sleeping in their parents' arms and never sleep in their cots.
4, too accommodating to sick babies
When a baby is sick, he or she will become particularly clingy and the bad habit of cuddling will develop at this time. Babies with a stuffy nose especially like to be held by their parents so that they can breathe more freely. However, after getting well, they still do not want to sleep in their own cot.

[Expert tips].
The adverse effects of holding your baby to sleep outweigh the beneficial effects. Therefore, as a newborn, you need to consciously develop good sleep habits in your baby. Especially as soon as the baby cries, parents will hold in their arms to coax, a long time, it is easy to make the baby develop the bad habit of holding to sleep.


The solution to "waking up when you put it down"

1、Wake up when you put it down
A mother once described it like this: "The moment you put your baby to bed is so exciting, it's like dismantling a bomb!" Putting it down carefully and waking up immediately is like testing the endurance and physical strength of new parents.
Tear down: In this case, repeatedly picking up and putting down your baby may cause him/her to keep waking up from sleep, making him/her even less likely to be soothed. For younger babies, it may be unavoidable to put them to sleep, so new parents need to keep trying and trying.
2. Waking up after half an hour's sleep
When your baby falls asleep, you think you can finally breathe a sigh of relief, but then you wake up after half an hour of sleep, which is always more on time than your alarm clock.
The sleep cycle of a newborn baby is 30-45 minutes. In fact, babies need to sleep again after they wake up, but most parents don't know this and start teasing them. You should try to pick up after your baby wakes up, or pet or pat your baby to reduce the difficulty of falling asleep again.
3. Waking up at the slightest sound
Even if you put a cup down or close the door, you may wake up, just like a thief.
This is probably due to your own startle reflex, which is a physiological reason and will improve as you grow. You can help your baby feel more secure by swaddling, cuddling and other methods.
4. Sleeping late and having difficulty falling asleep
Some babies don't fall asleep until after 11pm, or they just don't sleep during the day, even though they are clearly very sleepy.
You can take your baby out to see the scenery and listen to the sounds. The right amount of stimulation can make it easier for your baby to fall asleep.
5. Waking up early
Your baby wakes up at 4am or 5am, grunting and not sleeping, making it impossible for new parents to rest.
Don't feed your baby immediately to avoid habitual hunger. It is best to keep the bedroom dark and quiet to provide a good sleeping environment for your baby.

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